Emotional Violence  
Emotional abuse in a marriage is such a covert form of domestic violence and abuses that many people arenít able to recognize they are a victim. A spouse may have a feeling that something is wrong. They may feel stressed out; a sense of depression; anxiety but they canít quite identify what is causing those feelings.
Emotional abuse is used to control, degrade, humiliate and punish a spouse. While emotional abuse differs from physical abuse, the end result is the sameÖa spouse becomes fearful of their partner and begins to change their behaviors to keep their partner happy. The happier their partner, the less domestic violence the spouse has to suffer. By the time a spouse identifies the true problem they have begun to feel as if they are crazy. They will doubt themselves and their own sense of reality because emotional abuse is meant to cause the victim to question their every thought and behavior. Below are some tactics an emotional abuser will use:
  • Isolating a spouse from friends and family.

  • Discourage any independent activities such as work; taking classes or activities with friends.

  • Accuse their spouse of being unfaithful if she talks to a member of the opposite sex.

  • Expect her/him to Participate in sexual activities that he/she is uncomfortable with to prove their love. Or, withhold sex as punishment instead of communicating openly their displeasure.

  • Constantly criticize the spousesí weight, their looks, the way they dress.

  • If the spouse does not give into the control they are threatened, harassed, punished and intimidated by the abuser.

  • Uses the children to gain control by undermining the other parentís authority or threatening to leave and take the children.

  • Control all the financial decisions, refuse to listen to their partnerís opinion, withhold important financial information and make their spouse live on limited resources.

  • Make all major decisions such as where to live, how to furnish the home and what type of automobile to drive.

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